Weekends are for weddings! If you’re like me, with 9 weddings each year, the weekends are, quite literally, for weddings (attending them, that is). Also if you’re like me, the weekend is a time to think about planning your own wedding. Lots of people carve out a certain time each week for to wedding planning (Wedding Wednesday seems to be very popular). It ensures the wedding doesn’t take over their whole lives; however, I find that confining wedding planning to a specific time is too pressure-filled and bicker-prone. I plan my wedding when inspiration strikes. Weekends, in particular, offer the time to let my mind roam and plan my own wedding in a stress-free environment. In this series, I’ll take you through some of my major planning steps – hopefully this will help you plan your own wedding!
I wanted to give my beau a small gift on the day of our wedding. I wanted to convey that all throughout this crazy wedding process, he was always on my mind. I also wanted him to have something tangible to get him excited about what was to come that day.
Of course, I gave him a note telling him how much I love him blah blah blah sappy sappy sappy. If you do nothing else, do this.
HOT TIP: I mean, don’t force it. If you and your spouse-to-be aren’t good with the written word, I suppose you can skip it. Nothing is more awkward than reading a note a groom felt forced into writing because he’s “supposed to” and the bride wants a photo of herself tearing up as she reads it. If, however, you are into writing things down, this can be a really nice thing that really puts everything into perspective. I recently recapped our wedding for our photographer who asked what moment I remembered most from our wedding day. I responded:
When I opened a note from Albert as I was getting my hair done and noticed that he ended it with the same movie quote I wrote in my note to him, I knew that marrying him was the most right and perfect thing I could ever do.
In addition to a note, I still wanted to give Albert an actual prezzie. He has one raggedy bag that he uses for all travel. He travels light and simply throws everything in there. He has never owned a dopp kit, and I thought it was time he got one – a manly one. I also thought it was representative of the new journey we would be taking together as a married couple, starting with our minimoon to Cuba (our first real vacation together).
I got him this one from Sivani Designs, monogrammed with his initials. I filled it with these Italian shave products from Proraso that he recently discovered and fell in love with (they smell so good!) as well as a pair of cufflinks since he often wears French cuff shirts. Albert is actually the 4th (IV) so I found cufflinks made from vintage typewriter keys, one in the letter I, the other in the letter V. Finally, I tossed in a keychain from 3Potato4 that says Mr., giving myself the matching Mrs. one.
While an engraved watch is a common gift for the groom, I’m actually happy I decided to go a different route. Not only has Albert used these gifts almost daily, they all had personal significance. They also towed the line between serious and cute – just like us. Most importantly, they made it clear that HE was the most important thing to me on that day. It is so easy to get caught up in wedding details and put the focus on the bride, but it’s important for the groom to know that all the while, the bride’s focus is really on him.
All photos by The Happy Bloom.