Weekends are for Weddings: Incorporating Friends

Weekends are for weddings!  If you’re like me, with 9 weddings each year, the weekends are, quite literally, for weddings (attending them, that is).  Also if you’re like me, the weekend is a time to think about planning your own wedding.  Lots of people carve out a certain time each week for  to wedding planning (Wedding Wednesday seems to be very popular).  It ensures the wedding doesn’t take over their whole lives; however, I find that confining wedding planning to a specific time is too pressure-filled and bicker-prone.   I plan my wedding when inspiration strikes.  Weekends, in particular, offer the time to let my mind roam and plan my own wedding in a stress-free environment.  In this series, I’ll take you through some of my major planning steps – hopefully this will help you plan your own wedding!

Albert and I are very fortunate to each have a large handful of people we can call best friends.  The only “problem” with this is that it makes for a very large wedding party.  We decided to cut it off at 8 per side because any more seemed crazy.  However, we wanted to make sure some of our friends received special honors, as they are special in our lives.


Albert has been the best man in two weddings but didn’t want to do the co-best man thing.  Instead, he had one best man and gave his other close friend the honor of co-officiating the wedding, along with the Rabbi.

HOT TIP: In the end, this friend was unable to attend, as he is currently living in Asia and had a last minute family emergency to attend to.  Yes, that meant our wedding party was suddenly uneven and we only had one officiant,  making our interfaith ceremony more single faith than we had imagined; however, this is one of those cases where you have to role with the punches.  While we were devastated a close friend could no longer be at our wedding, it put things into perspective and we realized the most important thing was that everyone was healthy.  It was too late to change the programs, and I wouldn’t have even if we could because I wanted them to reflect the ideal situation.  Just because he wasn’t able to officiate doesn’t mean that was our intention all along.  Had he been scrubbed from the program, it would have looked like such a close friend didn’t exist…and that just didn’t feel right.

I thought our wedding party was already massive and could not imagine adding any more people so I gave one of my friends the honor of signing our ketubah.  The document will hang in our home forever so it’s an important honor.  I also had two girlfriends serve as greeters and do readings at the wedding.  All three of these friends were included in the Friday afternoon bridal luncheon so I still felt like they were very much a part of the weekend.  Though they didn’t wear anything specific (like a bridesmaid’s dress), the did each have a corsage.  Also, because they were playing important roles, I gave them each a small gift as a token of appreciation.  Kate Spade makes some great earrings, and I love me some Kate Spade.  I got three different pairs and gave each gal the style that I felt best suited her personality.