Ever feel like you need to get something off your chest? Sometimes I’ve just gotta talk it out. That’s why I’ve decided to do a monthly feature called “Thoughts On…” At the beginning of the month, I’ll provide a prompt to stimulate discussion. The point is to get us to put our thoughts out there – writing it all down can be quite cathartic. If you want to keep your writing private, that’s your thing and I won’t question it. If you’re ready to put it all out there, I invite you to share your thoughts in the comments. At the end of the month I’ll provide my own thoughts on the topic of the month. Think of it as a book club for writing.
In this month’s “Thought’s On…,” let’s chat about maiden names. They’ve been in the news a lot lately as more and more women are choosing to keep their maiden name after getting married. Is this something you did or are planning to do?
Thought Starters:
- Does your last name define your identity? Would you feel like you were losing a part of yourself if you changed it?
- Would you care about your maiden name more if your career was thriving?
- Do you think your future husband would feel emasculated if you didn’t take his last name?
- Is a hyphenated last name a “win-win” or is it confusing?
Totally want to keep my maiden name. I’m proud of who I’ve become at 30, and while I don’t have an issue with his name, it’s just easier at this point to keep my name. It’s one thing at age 22 when you don’t have a career or really an identity behind your name to change it. On a side note though, I’m not going to jump down someone’s throat if they call me by his last name. I guess it might get confusing if we had kids. But I also go by my middle name which presents an issue for name changing since my first name is the only thing that feminizes my name!
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